By Michelle Allen
Every once in a while, a story crosses my path that stops me in my tracks — not because it’s shocking, but because it’s familiar. Too familiar. A child with autism excluded from a school trip. A little girl with Down Syndrome removed from a dance class because she couldn’t “keep up.” These aren’t isolated incidents. They’re reminders of something we don’t talk about enough: inclusion isn’t automatic. It’s taught.
And if our children aren’t learning how to treat kids with special needs at school, then maybe the lesson needs to start at home.
There are children who never get invited to birthday parties. Children who want to join a team but are passed over because winning matters more than welcoming. Children who long to belong but are labeled “different” before they’re ever given a chance to show who they are.
Kids with special needs aren’t strange or difficult. They want what every child wants — to be accepted, to be included, to be seen.
I grew up in a time when consequences were swift and clear. If you were unkind to a child who needed a little extra support, you answered for it. Respect wasn’t optional. Compassion wasn’t negotiable. And sometimes, the lessons came wrapped in tough love and a firm reminder that your actions mattered.
But those lessons stuck. They shaped who we became. They shaped how we raised our own children and grandchildren.
Today, I look at my own family — two grandchildren on the autism spectrum, and a son who faced challenges when he was younger. With patience, support, and tools like martial arts that helped him build confidence and resilience, he found his footing. He learned how to navigate a world that wasn’t always built with him in mind. And he thrived.
“Every child is a different kind of flower, and all together make this world a beautiful garden.” — Unknown
Every child deserves that same chance.
Kindness doesn’t require a degree or a program or a policy. It requires intention. It requires modeling. It requires adults who are willing to say, “This is how we treat people. All people.”
So tonight, maybe take ten minutes. Sit with your children or grandchildren. Talk to them about the kids who move differently, learn differently, and communicate differently. Explain that “different” isn’t less. That every child they meet carries a story they can’t see. That kindness is always the right choice.
Because one day, they will meet someone who needs that compassion — in school, at work, in their community, or even in their own family. And the lessons you teach today will shape how they respond tomorrow.
To every parent, grandparent, teacher, and neighbor who chooses inclusion: thank you. You’re building a world where every child — every single one — knows they belong.
And to the special children out there, the ones who are so often overlooked: you are loved. You are wanted. You are worthy. Always.
✨ Call to Action
If this message stirred something in you, don’t let it stop at agreement. Let it move you. Talk to your children and grandchildren. Model compassion in the small, everyday moments. Stand up when you see exclusion. Speak up when silence would be easier.
Every act of kindness plants a seed in a child’s heart — and those seeds grow into the kind of adults our world desperately needs.
Choose to be the person who makes room. Choose to raise children who make room. Together, we can build a community where every child knows they belong.
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